Fleeing Abuse: The North Family

Leading Families Home • October 4, 2022

Running On Empty

The North family is from south Ohio. The family includes the mother, Tanisha age 32, two sons, Jack, 13 and Tyler, 12, and two daughters, Delicia, 12 and Tyrra, 3. They arrived in Toledo after fleeing domestic abuse in their home city of Columbus.


As many families who find themselves in a domestic abuse situation, their abuser stripped them of resources and a support system, so they were left with nothing. They arrived in Toledo in a broken down mini van that they had been living out of for three weeks.

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Headed North to Nowhere

Tanisha didn't envision this situation when she first met her husband, Dan. Instead, she married him as a young, optimistic 20-year old who was excited when she found herself pregnant with their first child.


She returned to work as a restaurant hostess after giving birth to Jack. However, her employment was short lived. Dan started hitting Tanisha after Jack was born. Dan claimed he suffered from extreme stress when Jack cried or needed to be taken care of. Tanisha became pregnant with twins, Tyler and Delicia, soon after. This only added to the stress Dan felt, stress that he took out on Tanisha in the form of physical and emotional abuse.


Once the twins were born, Tanisha stayed home with the children until the twins were old enough to start kindergarten. She then returned to her job as a hostess once again.


Unfortunately, Dan's abuse not only continued but got worse. Dan started calling Tanisha at work, to ensure she was there. He harassed her on the phone and his violent outbursts were even worse once she got home.


After weeks of Dan calling Tanisha at work, she lost her job due to her inability to get him to stop. The abuse continued for years. Tanisha did her best to deal with it, but her self esteem was destroyed. She also had no income for herself and relied on her abuser to provide food, clothing, and medical treatment to her and her children.


When Tanisha found herself pregnant again, she was both excited for the baby and devastated for the increased abuse that she knew would come with having a new baby in the house.


Tyrra was born when Jack was 10 and the twins were 9. As she feared, Tanisha was subjected to extreme abuse by Dan, who couldn't tolerate another child in his house.


When Tyrra was two, Dan smacked his daughter for the first time. Tanisha had been able to put up with the abuse when it was directed at her, but she couldn't tolerate the abuse of her child. In the middle of the night, she packed their minivan with bare essentials, put the kids in the backseats, and drove north. She didn't stop until she was in Toledo. 

A New Day Dawns

Tanisha left her abusive husband and took her four children to a new city where no one knew them. She had only enough money to stay in a hotel for a few weeks. Once they ran out of money for the hotel, the little family stayed in their van.


Tanisha called 211 and was put on a waiting list for a shelter. United Way's 211 system placed them in Beach House Family Shelter after three weeks. (Many homeless families live in hotels, vehicles, or tents to survive. Learn more about where homeless people live and sleep.)


Once there, the North family was able to relax a bit in our home-like emergency shelter.


After a few months, the mom found full-time employment and housing. Now, they live in their own home and continue in our behavioral health, economic, and educational programs. They meet with a case manager once a month. They feel safe. They are finally home!

Domestic Violence & Economic Abuse

The North family shows us an example of domestic violence and economic abuse. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), the following stats are examples of the juxtaposition between domestic violence and economic abuse:


  • Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse
  • A survey by the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence found that, of respondents who were victims/survivors, 64% of reported their abuse impacted their ability to work; 40% reported their abuser harassed them at work via phone and in person
  • Victims of intimate partner violence lose a total of 8 million days of paid work each year, the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs
  • Between 2005 and 2006, 130,000 stalking victims/survivors were asked to leave their jobs as a result of their victimization
  • One study found that up to 50% of victims/survivors of sexual assault either lost or left their jobs after being assaulted


Find these stats and more on NCADV's website about domestic violence stats.

April 28, 2026
A Calling Rooted in Community For Debra Sue Pearson, serving as board president of Leading Families Home isn’t just a leadership role. It’s a deeply personal commitment to her community. After retiring, she knew she wanted to stay involved in meaningful work, and her experience serving on other boards had already exposed her to the realities many families face. What drew her to Leading Families Home was both the urgency of the issue and the organization’s approach to solving it. “Homelessness doesn’t affect just one person,” she shared. “It impacts entire families, and the truth is, many of us are just one unexpected event away from it.” That perspective has shaped her several-year journey with the organization, including her time as vice president and now as board president. What started as a way to give back has become something much more: a role she feels deeply connected to and committed to every single day. More Than Shelter What sets Leading Families Home apart, in Debra Sue’s eyes, is its focus on transformation rather than temporary solutions. While many organizations provide short-term relief, Leading Families Home takes a holistic, long-term approach, supporting families as they move from crisis to stability and ultimately toward independence. “This work is about more than ending homelessness,” she said. “It’s about walking alongside families as they rebuild their lives and helping them stay on that path.” Through wraparound services, strong partnerships, and a focus on the entire family unit, the organization ensures that participants aren’t just housed, but truly supported. “We don’t just provide a place to stay,” she explained. “We hold their hand and say, ‘Let me help you get back up.’ That’s what makes this organization so unique.” Moments That Matter Most Over the years, Debra Sue has witnessed countless examples of the organization’s impact, but it’s the quieter, deeply human moments that stay with her the most. Watching families transition into permanent housing, especially those with children, is something she describes as both powerful and emotional. “The most meaningful moments are when families can finally sit down together, have a meal, and feel safe,” she said. “That sense of stability—it changes everything.” These milestones represent more than just a change in housing; they signal a turning point where families can begin to envision a different future. For Debra Sue, those moments are a constant reminder of why the work matters. Growing to Meet the Need Under Debra Sue’s leadership, Leading Families Home has continued to evolve to meet the growing needs of the community. One of the most significant milestones has been the acquisition of Family House, which expanded the organization’s capacity to serve more families and strengthened its overall impact. Alongside that growth, the organization has prioritized building strong partnerships with local leaders, government agencies, and other nonprofits to ensure families receive comprehensive support. Programs like childcare services have also been introduced to address critical barriers, helping parents pursue employment and long-term stability. “We’ve come a long way, and we’re still growing,” she said. “We’re not done yet. We’re on the brink of something even bigger.” A Community Effort For Debra Sue, one of the most important aspects of Leading Families Home’s work is its role as a connector within the community. The organization doesn’t operate in isolation. It collaborates, shares resources, and aligns efforts with others who are working toward the same goal. “Ending homelessness takes all of us,” she said. “If we don’t have what a family needs, we go out and find it. That’s how we create real, lasting change.” That collaborative approach creates a ripple effect, extending the organization’s impact far beyond housing and into areas like employment, education, and overall well-being. It also reinforces a simple but powerful truth: community support is essential. “Without it, we can’t do this work,” she added. Shifting Perspectives and Looking Ahead While progress has been made, Debra Sue believes there is still work to do in helping people understand the realities of homelessness. Too often, it’s seen as something that happens to “other people,” when in reality, it’s far closer to home than many realize. “I wish more people understood that homelessness can happen to anyone,” she said. “In today’s world, many families are one event away from losing their stability.” Even so, her outlook on the future is filled with hope. She sees it in the resilience of the families served, in the dedication of the staff, and in the growing support from the community. “The resilience of the families we serve gives me hope,” she said. “And I’m incredibly proud of our team. Their dedication is unmatched.” For Debra Sue, Leading Families Home is more than an organization—it’s a movement grounded in compassion, connection, and real change. “It was a blessing for me to get involved,” she reflected. “There’s something special about this place. When people become part of it, they don’t just support the mission… they become part of it.”
March 13, 2026
Deborah Nugent knows firsthand how important Family House and Leading Families Home are to the homeless in Toledo. While she was battling addiction, Ms. Nugent lived in the Family House shelter on Indiana Avenue, she said. She now works as a residential staff supervisor for Leading Families Home, which acquired the service organization in January. “Giving back is the greatest thing you can do,” she said. “These are our neighbors. ... You don’t want them to slip and fall, you want to help them.” Ms. Nugent was joined by Mayor Wade Kapszukiewicz and other city leaders Thursday to celebrate Leading Families Home’s acquisition in January of Family House through a ribbon-cutting ceremony at the Indiana Avenue shelter. “For many years, our organizations have operated side by side within the same space, working to help families,” said Jennifer Jacobs, executive director of Leading Families Home. “We are excited to say we are now operating together as one big family, united in our mission to serve families experiencing homelessness in our community.” Ms. Jacobs said merging the two shelters will allow Leading Families Home to serve more than 1,000 people a year. The acquisition was supported by $290,000 in funding from the city and a $20,000 Strategic Alliance Partnership Grant from the Greater Toledo Community Foundation. “We save lives by allowing families to live here and regroup so that they can go out and be productive citizens and live the dream [in] the city of Toledo,” said City Councilman Cerssandra McPherson. Leading Families Home began as Beach Family Shelter in 1921 and has served hundreds of families throughout its tenure. Family House started as the Interdenominational Ministerial Alliance in 1985. Rosalyn Clemens, director of the department of neighborhoods for the city of Toledo, said she was visited by leaders of Family House in November, who told her, “We think that we can be more impactful if we combine forces.” She said it’s her job to help manage federal resources at a time in a country where those resources are dwindling. “Nonprofits tend to be territorial,” Ms. Clemens said. “They work in their silos and as we deal with this issue of dwindling resources, we have to address how we can become more efficient with the resources that we have. “When they came to me that day and asked for $290,000 for this transition, it was just a no-brainer for me to [go] before council … and ask for this money because it was such a visionary move on their behalf,” she continued. “It was such an impactful thing to combine forces to be able to serve more people.” The mayor shared the same sentiment. “It’s a difficult time in America right now for nonprofits, social service providers, frankly, like Family House,” Mr. Kapszukiewicz said. “It’s good if you’re Elon Musk and you need a tax break. It’s bad for everyone else. We have to have organizations step up to fill in the gap and that is what is happening here.” First Published March 12, 2026, 6:07 p.m.
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